Wednesday, August 23, 2006
I really have to consider who my friends are, because someone I thought was a friend sent me this YouTube link that's making me reconsider our friendship. She sent me Cassie's performance on 106 & Park, and I must say it was the worst display of talent I've seen since the coming of Ciara!
Please see for yourself!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qXPWhzYk4hc
I've been quiet about the state of the music today, because I'm considered an old head (I'm 30 to be) so what I say really wouldn't have any bearings on this crap they call music.
But after watching this performance, I was truly amazed at what these poor children are listening to. I guess if it's a good beat, then to hell with the vocals and that's a damn shame. This chick Cassie needs to do what she can really do, and that's look pretty. She maybe smart, but she wasn't smart enough to realize she has not a damn ounce of talent.
"Well she may have had stage fright" And before you justify that travesty of a performance with that lame ass excuse, let me tell you that EXCUSES ARE REASONS FOR FAILURE! That performance failed miserably. "Well, if you think you can do better, then sing" I'm too much of a realist to understand I wasn't blessed with the gift of singing joyful noises unto the masses. I know what my limitations are, and I do have folk around me to let me know in the event I lose my mind and try to get a record deal.
We won't even discuss what they are actually SINGING about, because that's for another blog. But when did having a pretty face and body constitute having talent? Granted you don't want a mud duck singing his affections toward you, however, I don't want to hear some obviously cute young lady subject herself to this kind of ridicule by murdering a hit!
Why won't these parents teach these kids what real talent is, let them listen to the music we grew up on. I was listening to MJ this morning singing, "You Wanna Be Startin' Something" and 23 years later, that song still rocks.
Yeah yeah, we come from a different generation and all that bullshit but to hear what I heard on YouTube isn't making this music sound better.
"If you don't like it turn it off" Well, fuck you very much Mr. Music Police! I can do whatever I want, and listen to whatever I want.
I do listen to some young people music, but I listen more now to the music I grew up on. I sing along and enjoy it, and I'm getting my boys to enjoy it. I know they like that shit that's on the radio now, but I want them to know music history before they take this poor excuse for entertainment seriously.
Cassie is better off on a runway, Ciara isn't Janet Jackson, and Beyonce is not and I repeat IS NOT TINA TURNER! B, has talent in a way but she's not TINA. She's Tina KNOWLES in about 10 more years, but not TINA TURNER!
Teach these kids about Chaka, Tina Marie, Tina Turner, Anita. . .the list goes on! The Whispers, damn how about Parliment? Cassie, ain't it! Puff need to stop lying to these heifas!
Friday, August 18, 2006
Avin hipped me onto a product, I've heard about it for while but never tried it. It's called Carol's Daughter!
Now, I've never been a fan of "alternative" products with fruits and berries and shit like that, however, I decided to give it a try. Low and behold I like it, I like it! I haven't been able to use all the products yet, but what I've been able to use has made my hair look and feel the way I've wanted it to for as long as I can remember. It's moisturized without being too greasy, it's bouncy and light not heavy and a burden.
When I got my box, I was still wondering if I was going to like it. I saw you can't return the shit, so I prayed that I would like it. Carol's kid must have known that Glinda's daughter would return shit in a heartbeat if she doesn't like it. Not that I agree with the "No Return" policy, but hey; it's their business not mine.
I used Lisa's Elixir and Hair Balm on my hair and let me tell you; before CD, I would have to part my hair, grease the scalp and the hair then curl. The process would weigh my hair down and it was very time consuming. When I put the CD in my hair; a little bit of each in my hair (a little goes a long way, please believe that!) and I didn't have to add anything else, just curled my hair and it was done!
My hair was so soft and silky feeling, I loved it. You can put it in your hair every night (a little drop, and it doesn't matter if you skip a night) before you go to bed, it's not heavy and it doesn't weigh your hair down.
I never talk about any products, but this is a must. I don't think this is for everyone, but if you want my opinion. . .PLEASE TRY IT! You can get the smaller bottles to try before you spend money on the bigger bottles and don't like it.
I also bought some cleanser for my face. I went the Bella Sante spa in Boston and the esthetician told me my face was very dehydrated, so I went to Carol's Daughter and got some products to clean my face. I used Ylang-Ylang & Patchouli Gentle Face Wash to clean my face, to tone my face I used Rosemary and Chamomile toner; to moisturize it I used two drops of the Essential Serum. A little bit goes a long way with these products.
I have very sensitive skin, and when I rave about a product; it's pretty damn amazing. I never advertise any product, but because I've been having eczema flair ups like crazy lately, I decided to try it and so far this feels good on my skin and hair.
I have some shampoos and conditioners to use, so I'll probably blog about that when I have to wash my hair.
I really like it, and it's not for everyone so if you don't like it that's fine!
Thanks Avin for getting me hooked on something! You know your shit!
Thursday, August 17, 2006
I'm watching Emeril last night, and I really like that show and the themes they have at times. So last night, when they had the hip hop show, I wanted to watch it. When he announced his guests, I was totally disgusted. He had Sunny from Hot 97 in NYC, and REMY FUCKING MA!
Why? Why have these white folk think that hip hop looks like Remy Ma? She looked like a hot mess as usual, and she is not hip hop. Who in the hell invited her to the show? Hip hop? She's hip hop? I think not! Why not get a hip hop veteran or someone that matters?
Was she a cheap alternative? They didn't have to pay her in cash, but in colored weaves? I know Sunny's her homey; by the way Sunny can cook her ass off, but I digress. However, Sunny didn't have to invite her to come along! Keep Pepe LePew's third cousin in the house.
I'm glad the Excedrin PM's made me go to sleep, because I would have thrown a shoe at the tv.
Dear Un-Black Americans,
Remy Ma is not how hip hop looks, we don't really know what she looks like outside of the male cousin of RuPaul. Remy Ma is to hip hop what Wendy Williams is to journalism, a fucking travesty.
Thank you,
Hip Hop Management
Monday, August 14, 2006
I went to Michigan to see my girlfriends this weekend, and yes I flew. I was really scared to fly, but I'm always scared to fly. That's a totally different blog all together. So, let me get down to business.
I have a girlfriend in Cleveland and one in the suburbs of Detroit. To make this short, we picked up Cleveland and brought her back with us to the ‘burbs. Miss ‘Burbs, was invited to a 21st birthday party, and it was a club in downtown Detroit.
The three of us are standing in line and “Lil Ron and the Southside Boyz” showed up, and stood behind us in line. We were dressed very lady like, and then I hear “Umm, you have a nice ass.” Now, in any other situation, I would have gotten beside myself and really went off. However, this was downtown Detroit, Michigan, and I really wasn’t in the mood for a shootout.
His half way intelligent homeboy said to him, “You don’t tell her she has a nice ass, you tell her she has nice jeans.” It’s a shame when your friend has to tell you how to talk to a lady, granted he was no smarter, but at least he tried.
I was truly disgusted at the ignorance of the boys in that place. I understand it was a young club, but it was just way too much going on. I’ve never been so disrespected in a public outing, they didn’t touch me but still. Let me go on, it’s turning my breakfast just thinking about it.
So, I finally made it through the gauntlet of boys in that club to sit at the “party” table. This one guy, who was about as high as he was drunk comes to the table. He stands in front of me and say “I need you.” Yes, he actually came to a woman and said, “I need you.” What did you need me to do? Perform a breatalizer test on you? Did you need me to get you a cup so you can pee and we’ll all know what you’ve been smoking? What did you need me to do?
He asked me if he can call me, I said, “No.” This bama actually asked me why, now I have two boys. Granted he didn’t know that, so after he asked me “Why not?” I reverted back to my conversation with my baby boy just a few days ago, and replied the same way “Because I said so.” Just like my baby, he walked away upset. And just like the conversation with my baby boy, I didn’t care.
We couldn’t get out that place fast enough, I was pissed I couldn’t do the “Booty call”. We had more fun at Kickers, and that blog will be coming shortly.
Men, please teach these boys some respect for women. Please let them know that “You have a nice ass” is not a pick up line and neither is “I need you” Also, teach them that 301 is not the zip code for Washington, DC. Yes, I did lie about my age, and I don’t think you’ll read this because you don’t know how to type www!
Wednesday, August 02, 2006
In my part two of the fashion war, I would like to discuss jeans. Jeans come in all kinds of fits now; skinny, bootcut, low rise and curvy. I would like to discuss each fit listed individually.
Skinny Cut
The skinny jean are a slim fit jean, they're not stretched or have elastic in them. They run extra small, and if you get your size and you're not slim they are too small. Even if you are skinny they're still too small. If you want to get skinny jeans, please try them on; and if they no longer look like they're supposed to then you can't buy them.
How to tell they look skinny? If you don't look slim in the jeans, TAKE THEM OFF NOW!!!! Your big ass don't need to wear them, jean isn't stretchable unless they come with some kind of stretch fabric! SKINNY JEANS AREN'T MEANT TO STRETCH! Only size zero to six can wear them, if you're a very slim size zero to six mind you. If are the size of a watermelon, don't try to squeeze into a straw, that's just wrong!
Bootcut
I actually like bootcut jeans, they give me a little bit more room to play with. So, I can't really say anything about boot cut jeans. However, I must say again that you need to get jeans in your size. If you don't know your size, use the nearest dressing room. Grab the size you THINK you are and two sizes up. If they fit you comfortably, meaning you can sit down or do the hookie pokie then they are okay. If you can see your thong, or any part of your ass. . .they are too small, dust yourself off and try again!
Low Rise
WHO IN THE HELL DESIGNED LOW RISE JEANS, AND WHY AREN'T THEY CASTRATED?!!!
I hate low rise jeans, because no one wears them that can wear them. I've only seen models, the ass less and fat girls wear low rise jeans. I've yet come across someone who actually look nice in low rise jeans. Let me break this down further, the low rise wearers need a talking to.
The Ass Less
Apparently the low rise jeans are designed to give a "lift" to the ass less. Well, I don't think the jeans were created by Whodini or David Copperfield. So, if you're expecting have the jean perform an ass magic trick. . .you can forget about it!
I don't care if they low rise or high rise, if you don't have an ass to begin with; jeans won't make one magically appear! Which begs me to ask this question; if a woman (white) thinks that having a big ass means she's fat, then why wear a jean to give you an ass? Isn't that contradictory?
The Fat Girl
Must I say anything? I think so, so here it is. You can not wear low rise jeans and you have more belly than Santa Clause! You should never want to walk around in public with your belly hanging over your belt buckle. You should feel ashamed and embarassed. Why? Because you're not who the jeans are made for!
So before you put your ho ho down and respond, look at your ho ho and your jeans and then think real carefully about what you're going to say. Everything isn't for everyone, if you don't like this post. . .so what! Skinny Jeans and Low Rise jeans aren't for fat people!
Did I hurt your feelings? You hurt mine everytime I see you looking like that! And before you come up with some witty comeback like "If you don't like it don't look" that's like asking me to walk around in the daytime and not see the sun! If you are visible then I'm going to look!
The Jean Model
I know it's your job to show us the jeans and how they are SUPPOSE to fit, however, I would like to ask you if you could put a disclaimer out. Thank you! It could be a simple disclaimer like "Muffin tops need not order or buy".
Last but not least, my favorite jean in the world!
THE CURVY FIT!
I don't know about you, but i love these jeans. I'm a size 4 or 6 (depending on the cut of the jean) and when I got my first pair from Express, I was in love. They fit so nice around my waist and my hinepots!
In case you haven't heard of curvy jeans, let me explain. They are made for women with hips and a backside, they may or may not stretch so I advise trying them on. I only get my jeans from Express, so I tried on the size 6 and they fit so well. My ass was lifted to new heights and i had room for my thighs and my waist.
Depending on the time of the month, I have little to no muffin topage. I recommend these jeans for the curvy women. I'll explain the difference between curvy and obese another time I don't feel like being bothered.
Anyway, I love them! I can't say enough about them. I'm quite bootylicious (which is my theme song by the way! Thanks B!) and so they accentuate my tail just perfectly. They come in boot cut as well, but not skinny or low rise. I don't look for low rise or skinny because I wear neither.
Here are my suggestions for skinny, bootcut, low rise, curvy jeans. So ladies, please take a good long look in a full length mirror and see if any of these apply to you be for you go shopping.
Skinny wearers are: Slim, mostly stick type, thin framed, small to no build; size zero to size 6 thin width
Low Rise wearers are: Slim to medium frame, stick to slightly curvy, small to medium build, have a flat tummy, not prone to muffin tops (menstrual cycles are excluded); size zero to 6, thin to thick width
Curvy wearers are: Medium to slightly large frame, medium to big thighs, medium to thick waisted, have a nice size backside, prone to muffin tops and need coverage; size 4 to 10, thick width
Please wear your jeans according to your body type, not according to the latest fashion!
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Rosie, Ellen, and now Lance Bass (from N'Sync). What do they all have in common? We knew from day one they were gay, but just realized it three days ago.
Look at Lance's picture, he has that face only a GLAAD member could love. Who wouldn't think Lance is gay, this bama tried to fly out of space!
HE GET HIS EYEBROWS ARCHED FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! COME ON PEOPLE.
Why do homosexual celebrities come out the closet, when it's obvious that you're gay? We have all come to accept gay people, well not everyone but that's a different blog.
Anywho, Rosie decided after her talk show tanked that she needed attention. "Humm, how can I get attention? OOOH, I KNOW! Let's tell them I'm gay!" We all watched that special and I know that I, like millions of other Americans were saying, "We were waiting for you to know you're gay. We already knew that since the Flintstones."
We don't care about your sexual status, but I mean if you're twirling and switching it's kind of obvious! It's this one lady at my job, who doesn't even have to say anything. We all know, and I'm sure she knows that we know. Why make a public announcement about it?
Why do you feel that you need to be "happy and liberated" like Lance said by going public about your sexual preference? I'm going to announce the next time I have sex with my boyfriend, hey I'm happy and liberated afterwards, why can't I announce it?
I don't care who you sleep with, I don't care what you do in your personal time. Hell, I barely give a shit about your career! You were N'Sync, the only good thing that came out of that group besides Justin was him dumping Skanky Spears and that damn "Bye Bye" video!
Who are you going to hurt by announcing your gay? You're Lance Bass! Justin Timberlake, Colin Ferrell, damn even Marlon Wayans coming out the closet would have me bent out of shape more than Lance Bass?
Who is Lance? A former singer, in love with a reality star? Did he even have a solo song on airplay? Did he do something other than play second fiddle to JT? Nah, he's just some former star trying to get some attention like the porn chick who used to play on Family Matters.
I mean really, why can't a straight star come out and say, "I am a heterosexual and proud of it"? Why announce to the world you like boys? And more importantly why should we give a damn?
Thursday, June 29, 2006
I've been listening for days about this Star Jones madness and it has to stop. She's been whining harder than a spoiled brat, wanting daddy's benz to go shopping. Get off your soapbox honey, and go eat a cheesesteak!
The View has known for months they were going to fire her, and yet they didn't tell her. Barbara WaWa said that it was to "protect" Star, while she was going through several personal matters. One, being her bariatric surgery and the release of her book. While I can appreciate what WaWa was trying to do, the best thing they should have done was tell her they weren't renewing her contract.
You can't keep a "secret" like that for so long without the other person knowing something is going on. Although, Star should have asked; The View should have had a sit down with her at the time they made the decision not to renew her contract. They dropped the ball with that one, and some backlash will occur.
With all that said, I will say this about Star. Her time has come and gone with The View, she has bored American housewives to death. How much more can they take of her referencing her gay ass husband, or her new outfits? She's borderline Kathy Lee Gifford meets Oprah. She has made such a todo about her personal business, but when it comes to her "weight loss success" she wants to be quiet? BITCH PLEASE!
You went under the knife like Al Roker did, and do you see him cowering under the "it's my personal business?" Nope, he's proud about it, he's helped other not be so ashamed of the procedure.
I'm so tired of Star's "bitch and moan" tiraids, and it's getting on my nerves. Star this, Star that. Who the hell cares? You made your money, so go away and do something else. Isn't there a red carpet you and your Velvet Queen need to be on?
Everyone was wrong in this situation, and I'm not sure if The View's going to survive with Rosie on there. It's only so much yelling and loud talk one can take at 11 in the morning. They added a roster to the hen party. . .I can't wait to see how this plays out.
Star, get over it honey. Playing the vicitm will only take you so far. You have better things to do, like realize your husband's gay! Maybe you should stick around and get advice from Rosie!
Oh, and for you ignorant ass black folk. A black out? For Star? You are seriously tripping! There are more pressing issues than Star Jones, now if you're getting paid let me know! If not, go home, let your child listen to "I Was Getting Some Head" and watch "Tip Drill".
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
I see it when it’s 40 degrees outside, I believe I saw it during the blizzard of ’96. Now, while we’re in the middle of our own little raining season, I still see them.
Yep, I’m talking about open toed shoes! Why do women wear them and it’s raining buckets of water outside? That’s about as idiotic as an active water fountain in a thunder storm! I see them during the winter for holiday parties, and now while we’re only day three into our seven day raining period (I think this how Seattle must feel) I see crusty, ashy toes.
I just want to know why!
Yes, I know you may say, “It’s 70 degrees outside.” Well, you’re correct it is 70 degrees outside, you win the prize for being smart about the weather! How come you’re not smart enough to know “open toes = wet toes”? Just because it’s hot outside, it’s still wet regardless.
To make it worst, you’re the same folk I see dodging puddles trying not to get your feet wet. Umm. . .you can’t do that today of all days, when dodging puddles is an impossible feat in and of itself.
And if you’re going to have your toes out, GET THEM DONE! Mai Fong can get them polished for you and get the crust off, or get some lotion and try to keep them less ashy! You wonder why your feet look like they’re going to crack and bleed! You have more scales on them than a fat man at a weight loss boot camp!
Jeez, why isn’t common sense, common? You can’t look cute in a pair of shoes that cover your feet up?!
I'm keeping it short, because I know I'll see some dumbass in the winter. Shivering like a scared wet cat, wondering why it's so cold outside! Stop rolling your eyes because I'm talking about you!
Monday, June 26, 2006
It’s raining like cats and dogs outside, it’s wetter than a Superhead porn video. It won’t let up, I swear I saw animals walking in two’s and an arc with spinning rims!
So, at work, I’m alone. Let me explain a bit! My one co-worker had already scheduled the day off to go to the doctor’s and to run some other errands, which was no problem. I understand, we all need to go to the doctor; being a woman, you need to get felt on by your doctor’s at least once a year to make sure the belts and hoses are still working.
My other co-worker, who started in April; called out AGAIN, she was off on Friday because she was too scared to drive. So, today she used the weather as an excuse not to come in. “I got turned around, so I went back home” umm. . .hello, you jackass everyone was getting turned around! SO DID I, AND I CAME TO WORK!
I never wanted anyone to get fired in all my days, but I swear, if I can do it I would tell her ass to “hit the road jack”. I mean really, I would fire her myself! I can’t stand that mess with a passion. I have kids, and never use the fact I have kids as an excuse for anything, but she uses it on a regular. She also live at the end of my county in Maryland, and so it is a hump and a half to get to work. HOWEVER, her ass wanted to live down there; she applied for a two bedroom apartment and they said she wasn’t qualified for the two bedroom so they gave her the one. She didn’t want to take it, because she asked for two bedroom!
HELLO!!!!! IF YOU CAN’T AFFORD IT AND REALLY NEED IT. . .YOU TAKE WHAT YOU CAN GET UNTIL YOU CAN GET WHAT YOU WANT!
As you can tell, I’m beyond pissed. I’m going to try and be civil tomorrow, but since I know how I am, I’ll just be quiet. I hate blogging about work issues, but this takes the cake by far.
I haven’t had the chance to take care of any of the work that’s been piling on my desk because of her Tom Foolery, and I’ve been hearing all kinds of people calling my service line.
Someone spent 20 minutes asking me the same questions, and I’ve had a guy snorting in my ear. That nasty wet snort, just beyond gross! I love rainy Mondays, and I love my job. Today, nah! Ask me tomorrow.
I don’t mind doing the work, I actually like it. However, the thought of her sitting at home watching Maury’s weekly “Baby Daddy/I slept with your third cousin” episode, makes my stomach turn with anger. I wish I could be so “undiligent” and “unfaithful” about my job.
I got up at 5:00 and got in the shower around 5:20 – 5:30 and was down here at 7:00, after I dropped my son off. Traffic was a nightmare, but I still made it in. She made no effort to come in to work. She didn’t want to come into work, and using her location as an excuse. Well, that’s not going to work! AND YOU’RE NEW!
I don't want her talking to me, or apologizing to me. I think I would get up and just walk out, because her ignorant ass isn't worth getting fired for. I wish I could call her and fire her over the phone! Man, I would get Donald Trump with it in a heart beat!
If this was any other time, I would cuss her up one side and down the other. I won't hesitate or break a sweat, but because I value my job. I'll just be quiet the whole day tomorrow. I don't know what my boss is going to do, but this is unnacceptable.
What happen to having pride in your job? What happen to doing what it takes to get the job done? Where the hell are those folk? I guess we're all hired, and now I'm dealing with the scrapings of the employment scrap heap!
I swear if my famous saying: Excuses are reasons for failure, weren't true any other time. . .they are true today!
Yes, I'm truly looking forward to the winter! What excuse will she come up with then?
Thursday, June 22, 2006
Over the years, I’ve seen my fair share of fashion atrocities committed against man/womankind! We had the painful brasseries, men with their jock straps and tighty whities. Lest we forget the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s, gone are the bobby socks, space suits and Aqua Net. The nineties brought about the advent of hats with holes cut out the top for ponytails, baseball shirts and can we not forget the riding boots?
In the new century, I haven’t seen anything that would suggest we are getting better with the fashion and what we chose to wear. Earlier in this decade, I’ve seen something’s that make me want to write to congress and ask them to employ fashion police in every state of the union. I’m an advocate of being different, setting you apart from everyone else.
I also believe in stepping outside the box, but some folk have never stepped into the box, let alone try to get out of it. We’ve seen in this decade, excess. More excess than in the 80’s; no decade can top the 70’s but I believe that this new century can truly compete with the past fashion disasters.
I’ve seen teeny tiny clothes on big whalelephants (across between a whale and an elephant), knowing full well they should have been arrested by security for buying outfits so small we can see every roll and stretch mark on their big asses! I’ve seen colors on people that do not belong. You can’t be, pardon the phrase, Crunchy Black with hazel contacts in your eyes. You weren’t born that way, it’s not original. I take that back, it is original. . .originally ridiculous!
Now, with the invention of hair in every hue possible, I’ve seen blue braids, hot pink braids. A combination of red, white and blue braids, and I believe that half these chicks can’t even tell you how to spell bicentennial; let alone tell you the history of this country. As long as they are different with a “patriotic” flair thrown in, who cares?
I’ve recently seen the short skirts, the ruffle ones that leave just enough fabric to cover your ass. The kind that you see girls constantly pulling down as if some material is going to, well, materialize! I really hate that skirt, as a fashion mistake, it ranks up there with the two side split skirt only the super obese seem to love wearing. They are on opposite ends of the spectrum, but on the fashion scale it’s a HELL NO on my list.
What happen to being ladylike? Since when did individuality become collateral damage because you want to wear the latest Sean John outfit? Tell the young men to pull their pants up and stop walking around like they have dookie in their pants.
Since when did self respect become an acceptable fashion casualty because you want to look like Melyssa Ford or 50 cent? 50 cent don’t look like 50 cent all the time, find out how he dresses when he’s just plain old Curtis.
Dressing with respect for yourself, and still looking classy with it is a talent that most young teens don’t wish to have. They think it’s nerdish or “old people-ish” because they are trying to give into peer pressure.
When I was their age, I wanted to wear the riding boots with the leggings and baseball shirt. I wanted to wear whatever Mary J., Salt N Peppa, Mariah Carey, and Whitney Houston were wearing. It’s only natural, but at some point you have to start figuring out who you want to be.
Now even Mariah’s naked! Toni Braxton, uhh. . .next! Mary got abs of steel and even Oprah isn’t looking all grandma-ish (actually that depends on the occasion)!
My great-grandmother told me back when I was in my black stage, heading into my formative years a hoochie dresser, to have some “mystery” because “men love when a woman doesn’t show all she has. It gives him something to look forward to.”
I’ve tried it the “other” way for a while, and realized that she was right (what grandmother is ever wrong, especially the great ones?) and started dressing with some respect and decorum.
Now, I’ve realized that I can dress classy and be sexy. Sexy isn’t the same as tawdry or chickenhead-ish. Cheap, easy, sleazy and skeezy isn’t the way a young woman should dress.
I swear these parents nowadays don’t teach their children anything. And before you start rolling your eyes and neck, saying “I do teach my child, she don’t know me!” Well, if you are EDUCATING your child, I’m NOT talking to you. If you are letting your child dress like it’s perpetually Halloween, because you too dress like your lights were out during the winter solstice; you can get mad, what are you going to do? Change your thinking?
Nope!
Good parents, responsible parents who are raising their kids to be respectable members of society we sometime forget that the way they dress also play a role in their future. Keep the boys pants up with a belt, find white tees that fit them and not look like rolled up bed sheets. Ladies, compliment YOUR frame with clothing and accessories that will make you stand out from the crowd. Kids, put your best foot forward at all times, if you want to be treated as an individual, don’t look like everyone else!
Monday, June 05, 2006
Well, there's alot of spectualtion as to whether Ms. Winfrey likes hip hop music or if she doesn't. Now, I don't have billions like O, and let's face it I don't have millions like her either. However, I can't stand TODAY'S hip hop music. I have a new appreciation of the 80's/early 90's hip hop and r&b music, and even though I've honestly gave TODAY'S music a chance; it's not working for me.
I hate it, hate it, hate it. If I like a song from today's music, it has to be more than the standard "EFF THE HOES" "I GOT MONEY, I'LL CAP YOUR ASS". Why can't they talk about something else? They don't have to be all goody tooshoes, but for goodness sakes why are they so limited in what they say?
"Well, if you don't like you can turn off the radio or change the channel" yada yada yada. What about "Self-Destruction" "Paper Thin" "911 Is A Joke" shoot what about "Brooklyn Zoo" and "Now That We've Found Love"? What happen to that music, and why is it relegated to the "old school"?
What's with the bitches and hoes? If Oprah's on her show discussing the marginalization of women, why would she have 50 cent on her show? What can he talk about? If she's trying to help the country track down child molesters and pedophiles, why would she have a rapper on there talking about "effing hoes" and the majority of those listening to the music are young kids?
What sense does that make? I love me some Ludacris, but would you want to spend an hour defending your music to Oprah and the demographics she appeals too? What would you say that would make her feel at least a little more welcoming towards you and your craft? How could you defend your music without being considered a "sell out" to your audience?
On the flip side, she's has Will Smith on her show so what's wrong with Ice Cube? He's done alot more than say "eff the police", he's directed and produced movies and tv shows. She had the cast of "Black/White" on her show, why not the producer?
I won't excuse or agree with any side, because it's not necessarily my place. I would like to point that if Ms. Winfrey will have Will Smith on her show, why not another rapper like Cube or LL Cool J?
Just like if 50 cent and others want to be taken seriously by Oprah, then why not have a valid reason to have an hour of our time. You can't rap on her show, because you'll be bleeped at least 5 times a verse. Have a platform to speak on, something substantial to speak about. Give Oprah a reason for wanting you on her show.
Offer to help her find sex offenders, talk about how you're helping the community. Give something to the audience other than a tour of your latest crib. If your world's empty and shallow, you don't deserve an hour of my time.
Friday, June 02, 2006
As we all know it's graduation season, and there are some folk who should not be valedictorian or allowed to speak in public. My highlight of the week was the graduation I attended on Wednesday, which was good with the exception of some points.
Just because you have a GPA of 5.25 (or whatever the standard is now) does not necessarily mean you are intellectually smart enough to speak in public. I have never seen such a display of wasted time and the resounding "What the hell are you talking about" come from a group of individuals in my life.
Giving shout outs and talking about your busted car, doesn't allow the audience to whom you are speaking to understand the correlation between heading out into the world and the fact you can't open the passenger side door to your old car.
I got the point that you don't want to depend on a ball player to support you, but the delivery doesn't indicate you plan on going far in your life. If you could have only heard what was coming out of this poor child's mouth was astonishing at best, and I surely don't mean that in the best way. Grant it, she's intelligent on paper.. .but what came out her mouth, didn't prove that point.
I'm not sure who or how someone is elected valedictorian or co-valedictorian (in this case, and why not have a salutatorian as done in my day?), but I'm pretty sure that the standards are low for this particular school. And I've seen better, more well spoken students walk across the stage with a 3.85 GPA.
In my opinion, I believe they need a better system than the one that they currently have because it's obvious it's not working. I propose that they take the top ten achieving students in the graduating class, have them submit an essay on whatever topic the school chooses. 1000 words or less, and whatever the best top two essays are, those are the valedictorian and saluatorian for the graduation class.
They also should spend time on public speaking. Allowing them the opportunity to present their essay to their school, as a test to their public speaking skills. Or shoot offer a Toastmasters class. I'm sure that will work.
Just because you're smart and popular shouldn't guarantee you a spot on stage at the graduation! You have to have the whole package, how can this girl go into the work force and talk the way that she did?
Also, I'm truly bothered by the lack of education and decorum that some folk tend to proudly carry around. My tolerance for ignorance was extremely reaching its zenith on Wednesday, and as much as I wanted to say "Please, go educate yourself", I just kept quiet. Why even bother to say anything, if they are to ignorant to understand that they lack the basic "hometraining" to conduct themselves accordingly when they leave the house?
What is the point in even getting upset? What was I more upset about, the lack of intelligence or upset about the fact that they don't seek to do better for themselves then to be what it is they are?
So here are my "Top 10 Graduation No-No's"
10)Don't give shout outs during your valedictorian speech
9) Don't walk across the stage barefoot (yes someone was barefoot!)
8) Don't keep your head down while you're giving your speech
7) Don't wear a wedding dress or a bridesmaid dress as a graduation gown
6) Don't make references to your busted up hooride during your valedictorian speech
5) Don't come late and start screaming "WHERE SHE AT?"
4) Don't smack your lips during your valedictorian speech.
3) While the principal is giving the proclamation that the students met the requirements to graduate don't yell "THAT'S IT! THEY DON'T WALK ACROSS THE STAGE?!" it's obvious they haven't gotten to that part yet!
2) Don't say "WHOO, I KNOW SHE CAN'T WAIT TO GET MARRIED TO CHANGE HER LAST NAME" just because you can't pronounce Thomas!
1) When the emcee say ". . .and last but not least, Mr. Kwesi Mfume" don't say "Who? Is he here?!"
Have a happy weekend!